May 6th Notes [Last Day of Class]

Marital Quality
Success
Performance Outcomes
Happiness
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Satisfaction
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Adjustment
Changes that have occurred to succeed in marriage
Solidarity
Refers to the strength of bonds between family members
Evaluated by the cumulative effect of the above

Clayton 8 Developmental Tasks to make marriage work
Marriage Sociability
Going out with friends
Marital Companionship
Enjoying each others company (critically important)
Economic Affairs
Economic aspects are important.
Couple must talk about economic needs.
Marital Power
Who makes what decisions when
Extra-Family Relationships
There has to be a balance with outside relationships
Ideological Congruence
Goals don’t need to be identical, but must not conflict.
Marital Intimacy
Agree on satisfying each others intimate needs.
Interpersonal Tactics
The way in which we deal with each other
How we learn to resolve differences
What tactics are used to do so

Positive Rewards of Marriage
(Happiness & Satisfaction)
Social participation as a couple/pair
Interlocking of habits (dinner on the table/pj’s on the bed)
Having an ongoing satisfactory sexual relationship
Conjugal love (sharing of experiences)

Traditional Barriers to Dissolving the Marriage
(Success)
Tough divorce laws (most are easier now)
Social pressure
Undesirability of singlehood
Religious acceptance
Presence of children (stay together for the kids)
Lack of alternatives (less true today)

Facilitating Mechanisms
(Adjustment)
Pair expectation for success (self-fulfilling prophecy)
Rapport Building Devices
Inter-dependence
Empathy and Understanding

Open Marriage
Marriage in 2 steps
Individual marriage
Family marriage

Satir - 5 Year marriage contract w/ renewal

huh, I actually think I have more notes than this for the 6th, I'll go look (it's on my laptop, which I'm not at right now)

Also have some more notes I'll post tonight, thanks for the site!