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Marital Quality
- Success , performance outcomes, happiness, satisfaction,
- Adjustment - changed that have occurred to succeed in marriage
- Solidarity- refers to the strength of bonds between family members
- Evaluated by cumulative effect of the above
Clayton - 8 developmental tasks to make marriage work
1. Marriage Sociability - going out with friends
2. Marital Companionship - enjoying each others company
3. Economic Affairs - couple has to talk about economic needs
Who works, how resources should be spent
4. Marital Power - refers to decision making process in family
- Who makes what decisions
5. Extra- Family relationships - how to balance relationships outside the family with family relationships
6. Ideological Congruence - has to be someway that the two agree on subjects, if not the same must similar
7. Marital Intimacy - agree on satisfying each others intimate needs
8. Interpersonal Tactics - how they learn to solve problems and differences
- The way in which we deal with each other
- How we learn to solve differences
- What tactics are used to do so
3 Factors that contribute to marital solidarity
Positive Rewards - ( Happiness/ Satisfaction)
- Social participation as a pair - being married allows you to engage social activities as couples
- Interlocking of habits - all needs are not satisfied by themselves, partner can help fulfill those needs
- Ongoing satisfactory, sexual relationships - knowing that there is a partner there to fulfill sexual needs
- Conjugal love- love that strengthens over time ( sharing of experiences)
Traditional Barriers ( success)
- Tough Divorce Laws - there ised to be very strict divorce laws that required evidence in order for it to be filed
- Social pressure - people are expected /pressured to be married, being single was frowned upon & divorce
- Undesirability of singlehood -You were supposed to be married and stay married
- Religious Beliefs - most religions frowned upon it
- Children - most people stayed together for the children
- Lack of alternatives - no way to support self and children, being single and divorced was frowned upon for women
Facilitating Mechanisms - ( Adjustment)
- Pair expectation for success - going int marriage with the expectation that it will work goes a long , with the expectation that it will work will make it last longer
- Rapport Building devices - gesture that would rebuild rapport
- ex. Husband giving flowers, wife cooking dinner
- Interdependence - developing a sense of common identity as a couple
- Empathy and understanding - being able to see situations as the partner does; be able to put yourself in the other's place ; must be mutual
- Substitutive mechanisms - take you out of high stress situation and if problems arise after ( cooling off period) it didn’t help
Open marriage - ( O'Neills) - argued that marriage is composed of two individuals
- Success , performance outcomes, happiness, satisfaction,
- Adjustment - changed that have occurred to succeed in marriage
- Solidarity- refers to the strength of bonds between family members
- Evaluated by cumulative effect of the above
Clayton - 8 developmental tasks to make marriage work
1. Marriage Sociability - going out with friends
2. Marital Companionship - enjoying each others company
3. Economic Affairs - couple has to talk about economic needs
Who works, how resources should be spent
4. Marital Power - refers to decision making process in family
- Who makes what decisions
5. Extra- Family relationships - how to balance relationships outside the family with family relationships
6. Ideological Congruence - has to be someway that the two agree on subjects, if not the same must similar
7. Marital Intimacy - agree on satisfying each others intimate needs
8. Interpersonal Tactics - how they learn to solve problems and differences
- The way in which we deal with each other
- How we learn to solve differences
- What tactics are used to do so
3 Factors that contribute to marital solidarity
Positive Rewards - ( Happiness/ Satisfaction)
- Social participation as a pair - being married allows you to engage social activities as couples
- Interlocking of habits - all needs are not satisfied by themselves, partner can help fulfill those needs
- Ongoing satisfactory, sexual relationships - knowing that there is a partner there to fulfill sexual needs
- Conjugal love- love that strengthens over time ( sharing of experiences)
Traditional Barriers ( success)
- Tough Divorce Laws - there ised to be very strict divorce laws that required evidence in order for it to be filed
- Social pressure - people are expected /pressured to be married, being single was frowned upon & divorce
- Undesirability of singlehood -You were supposed to be married and stay married
- Religious Beliefs - most religions frowned upon it
- Children - most people stayed together for the children
- Lack of alternatives - no way to support self and children, being single and divorced was frowned upon for women
Facilitating Mechanisms - ( Adjustment)
- Pair expectation for success - going int marriage with the expectation that it will work goes a long , with the expectation that it will work will make it last longer
- Rapport Building devices - gesture that would rebuild rapport
- ex. Husband giving flowers, wife cooking dinner
- Interdependence - developing a sense of common identity as a couple
- Empathy and understanding - being able to see situations as the partner does; be able to put yourself in the other's place ; must be mutual
- Substitutive mechanisms - take you out of high stress situation and if problems arise after ( cooling off period) it didn’t help
Open marriage - ( O'Neills) - argued that marriage is composed of two individuals
