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Notes for 4/27/2010
Nature of married life:
Honeymoon is the trip you take after your wedding. Rapport talks about 3 types.
1.Lovers Nest-Just the couple, focusing on only themselves
2.Perpetual mobile- Couple does thing that they may not get to do in the future.
3.Vacation- "thank god the wedding is over" The couple relaxes and takes it easy.
A higher degree of rapport occurs in stages. In the beginning there is an abnormal sensitivity to one another. Eg, your partner gives you a kiss and you say thats not a kiss thats a peck, we are married.
Stage 1- Happy Honeymoon Phase- Things are wonderful, you really enjoy one another.
Stage 2. Disillusionment and regret- Each unique individuals who will change, the other partner may not like this.Routinization of life.
Stage 3. Accommodation-Helps adjust to the reality. Better more realistic view is what marriage entails.
Tasks we are expected to do in a Marriage:
1. Realign our loyalties. Your spouse and children come first, above all else.
2. Mutually agree upon domestic and marital work Work together without coercion.
3. Mutually agreed upon engagement in sexual and emotional relationship.
Three Models of the family
By Soc.'s Gaenont and Greenblat
1. Unit of emotional satisfaction
2. Unit of political economy
3. Ongoing system of negotiations
4.Set of interactional systems
Power of the family is the result of mens power in society. As the balance changes, so does this.
He referenced a film director (I don't know if this was important or not) Cassaveces- He scripted his movies with very loose scripts and lots of freedom . He felt that marriage was a set of ongoing negotiations and is not set and determined. But there are some behavior boundaries.
Nature of married life:
Honeymoon is the trip you take after your wedding. Rapport talks about 3 types.
1.Lovers Nest-Just the couple, focusing on only themselves
2.Perpetual mobile- Couple does thing that they may not get to do in the future.
3.Vacation- "thank god the wedding is over" The couple relaxes and takes it easy.
A higher degree of rapport occurs in stages. In the beginning there is an abnormal sensitivity to one another. Eg, your partner gives you a kiss and you say thats not a kiss thats a peck, we are married.
Stage 1- Happy Honeymoon Phase- Things are wonderful, you really enjoy one another.
Stage 2. Disillusionment and regret- Each unique individuals who will change, the other partner may not like this.Routinization of life.
Stage 3. Accommodation-Helps adjust to the reality. Better more realistic view is what marriage entails.
Tasks we are expected to do in a Marriage:
1. Realign our loyalties. Your spouse and children come first, above all else.
2. Mutually agree upon domestic and marital work Work together without coercion.
3. Mutually agreed upon engagement in sexual and emotional relationship.
Three Models of the family
By Soc.'s Gaenont and Greenblat
1. Unit of emotional satisfaction
2. Unit of political economy
3. Ongoing system of negotiations
4.Set of interactional systems
Power of the family is the result of mens power in society. As the balance changes, so does this.
He referenced a film director (I don't know if this was important or not) Cassaveces- He scripted his movies with very loose scripts and lots of freedom . He felt that marriage was a set of ongoing negotiations and is not set and determined. But there are some behavior boundaries.
